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Hello Ma’am, It wonderful to see such a realistic issue being discussed, mainly because in the realm of being “civil" or to have “societal acceptance” we often forget the need to discuss out the invariable behaviour pattern that we start to exhibit. It necessary because at the end of the day - it’s all about the “barabari". Be it friendships, group work or intimate relationships it all comes down to how much work are you putting in. Sometimes we complain that we are the only ones who is putting in all the hard work, sometimes we are on the receiving end of this speech, listening dumbfounded. In context to the main reference of this blog article on marriage, I feel blessed to have witnessed certain stages of marriage between my parents - how my father would stay back and tend to the daily chores if my mother was sick or in need to be giving her 100% at work, or how any decision requires both their inputs (financial and otherwise). But it also consisted of days when one would give more than the other and still, they would balance it out equally. For instance, days when one of them is down, the other would put in an extra effort to feel special but at the same time, it was the sense of knowing when to let the other person deal with their own thing at their own pace. This “barabari” also came into the picture when they would team up to clean up the house, every time the in-laws visited - “You fix the living room, i’ll handle the laundry”. It was even there in everyday life - the extrovert in need of the introvert, the feeler in need of the thinker and vice versa. This “barabari” was in knowing what was needed and when. It never mattered who was the one on the giving end and receiving end. If I am being honest to myself, I feel pretty thankful for this very “barabari" because it made things so much more unique, so much more equated. Imagine it like an elastic band, no matter which direction you pull it from - the force exhibited from it shall remain the same. This balance has made benchmarks - certain standards - that makes me second your statement that yes, it is important to speak out and make connections because it’s better to find the Yin to the Yang than Bruce or Chang.

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