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Thank you sir, for writing a blog on this topic. I agree with the point you made about the positive assumption for teachers, however, I would like to add that the same attitude needs to be reciprocated by the student as well. The sniper act comes into play when the student does not trust his teacher. And with age, this becomes prominent in us. We start believing that we know enough and the other guy cannot add on anything new. In that situation, the positive assumption about the teacher can play a very important role for the student. In Ramayana, after the war when Ravana was on his deathbed, Lord Rama asked Lakshman to go to Ravana and ask for life lessons because Rama believed that lessons which a well-learned brahmin like Ravana can give, no one else can. Lakshman visited Ravana and asked him to give life lessons but Ravana didn’t utter a word. Lakshman got angry and went back to Rama to tell that Ravana is arrogant and not ready to talk. After listening to Lakshman, Rama asked a simple question “Lakshman where were you standing?”. Lakshman told that he was standing near Ravana head. Rama then told Lakshman that whenever one wants to learn something from a person, one should never stand near his head, but near his feet. The negative assumption of Lakshman about Ravana prevented him earlier from respecting him but later when he realized the fact, he accepted it. The positive assumption in the first place would have saved all the trouble. Maya Angelou said, “I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”. It becomes very important for student also to create an environment where a teacher can come and perform to his ability. A smile on the face of a student also works the same way as the smile on a teacher. But if we broaden the application from student and teacher to rest of the world. The positive assumption approach can act as an elixir for happiness. Our brain behaves in a certain manner, learning from the past it makes some assumptions which cut short the process of making a conclusion. When vapors rise out of milk, our mind makes an assumption that it is hot and we need not touch it. It works well for certain things but when it comes to uncertain things like human behavior, it becomes a problem. The human behavior changes and if we haven’t experienced that in our past we can’t make an assumption for that. This ultimately leads to closing of many possibilities. Training brain for forming positive assumptions in a negative situation is even difficult because we rarely had experienced that earlier. Thus, in our life, we can save stress and anger by just making positive assumptions. It will not cause any harm if someone crosses your car in a rash way if you can relate to something like,” may be he has to reach someplace important and was in a hurry”. This will only create an acceptance in your mind about the incident and you can live in peace.

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