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I would like to say that I really enjoyed reading this blog of yours as it perfectly captures the communication gap. I liked the entire flow of the blog as it starts from an instance and ends with the same instance being rectified. It kept me engaged into reading the entire piece. The entire explanation of the impact vs intention based on the same instance kept it simple and easy to comprehend without any gobbledygook. This intention-impact gap exists in maximum conversations which causes misunderstandings and sometimes even leads to a collapse of relationships. I myself have faced this gap several times, but mostly have failed to identify the reason behind those misunderstandings. I would hereby want to share one of the instances which I recalled right after reading the blog. One major instance of this gap is that between my mother and my brother. My mother is always after my brother, asking him to study while my brother constantly takes her scolding lightly. This is an example that is visible in almost all households where the parents’ major concern is that their child does not study. After reading this blog, I could understand that the reason lies in the intention-impact gap, for the mother’s scolding holds a positive intention towards the child but it ends up having a negative impact on the child. This example is very similar to what you quote in the blog. My mother also realises this gap and tries to bridge it by communicating her intention and asking for feedback. However, the story does not stop here. Despite all of this, she hardly succeeds in what she tries. My brother agrees with my mother but continues to be ignorant towards his studies. Hence, I believe that bridging the gap does not end the problem. Even after you communicate your intention and ask for feedback, it is imperative that the person buys your intention. Many a times, one may continue to hold that prejudice and believe that you are just trying to convince him/her to agree with you. For instance, even if you try to help people with constructive criticism and specify your intention, they might believe that you are just jealous of them and might not buy your ‘positive’ criticism. I thus believe that bridging the gap is both important and difficult at the same time. It highly depends on the relationship that the two parties share. In the case of my brother, he continues to neglect his studies despite knowing the intention of my mother because he has had faced the same situation for a very long time. He denies to accept that the scolding can ever hold a positive intention. It is therefore imperative to bridge this gap before it reaches a dead end. I thus believe that in order to bridge this gap, one has to be aware of the status of the relationship with the other party along with the duration of the existence of the gap. Only then would one be able to help.

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